The Roman
philosopher Cicero believed that in order to have a true friendship
with someone, one must have complete honesty, truth, and trust. He also
thought that friends would do things for each other without expectation
of repayment. If a friend is about to do something wrong, one should not
compromise one's morals and let the friend commit the action--one
should explain what is wrong about the action, and help one's friend
understand what is right. Cicero believed that ignorance is the cause of
evil.
Basically Cicero was a pimp. But think about it; isn't it truly amazing how important friendships are in life?!? I feel absolutely sorry for anyone without good-great fucking ghetto fabulous friends, like mine. It's even more amazing where your friends will take you, if you trust them. They push you to the edge and yank you back just as you are about to fall. Real friends, not the bubble gum, in your life for a moment, kind of friends, but the jawbreaker, last forever kind of friends. The ones who you can call and ask to come over with booze & cigarettes because you are upset. The kind of friends, who can tell by the tone of your voice or a look on your face that something is not right, the same friends who are okay with you saying "I don't want to talk about it anymore" or, "I need a time out". The kind of friends who call you out on your shit and notice when you are in your "head".
The kind of friends who pick you up from the airport with roadie mimosas (and edibles). The kind of friends who loan you their ski polls when your slow ass snowboarding self gets stuck without an ounce of momentum. The kind of friends who get that you are a sucker for a man in converse. The kind of friends who aren't afraid to tell you that you look good, or you look bad, or that you are miserable. The kind of friends who are never fake happy for you and never hesitate to tell you, you deserve better.
The kind of friend that cherishes your friendship so much that when you do argue - you know that even if it takes time, you'll talk about it, work it out move on and still be friends. The drama free kind of friends.
I am thankful to each and every one of my hard as a rock friendships. Those friendships transcend time zone, area code and gender; these lovely ladies and gentlemen inspire me to be better person and make being weird me, so much easier.
But it's 2013 and "friendships" have changed as we have gotten older and now in the age of Facebook, where people have to "accept" your friendship (where stalking, posting, poking and tagging are all acceptable definitions of "friendship"), maybe it's made us look at them even more, I mean shouldn't we?.
I'm the kind of girl that believes in the laws of attraction. I'm the girl in life that likes to keep the good- the good in anything. I'm the girl that stops in the middle of a bustling crosswalk to pick up a penny. I'm the girl that spots a quarter in the foot area of a city cab, and doesn't hesitate to get her hand dirty to grab that twenty-five cents (no chip mani). I'm the girl that will fight you for 14 cents on the ground outside Cocktail. I'm the girl that will walk up to a random stranger and tell them they look nice, because they do, and everyone deserves to hear genuine compliments, key word GENUINE.
I'm the girl that keeps old notes from college friends, even if I am not particularly close with that friend anymore; because when it was good, it was fucking phenomenal (Staci H. Stover, I still have a box of handmade cards and notes XO).
I'm girl that feels that you only get back what you put out in life, in love - into the world. You put out good, you get good. With the right energy life brings us encounters with good people, great people in fact. They are bursts of sunshine into our life that you did not know existed.They see you for the good that resides in you and bring positive to your world. I think all too often, we take advantage of those people in our life. They can be gone in a moments time. Some of them you are not sure you will ever get back and some you never do. I'm the pot calling the kettle black here but, sometimes in life we are too cynical to see the good and too idiotic to see the bad. I will be the first to admit I am great at posing artificial friendships, infinitely not as good at forging real friendships sometimes because, that requires me to open up. I will also admit that over the last three years, that part of me has vastly changed. I think the thing that bothers me most as of late; are people who create a false sense of intimacy in order to gain entry, those are the most sad, lost souls of all, and the most deceitful. I try to see the good in everyone, but sometimes if there is bad, you just have to let it go. I would venture to say that over half of my friends don't have a clue how near and dear they are to me or how much they matter. In their own way, each has been by my side during difficult times and not even known that they made all the difference and that being with them in that moment made me all the better. But the best friends in life won't let you cheat, lie or steal. Cheat yourself, lie to yourself or steal from yourself (or go home with a skank).
Here's to my jawbreakers, you are my rays of sun and signs of love
Basically Cicero was a pimp. But think about it; isn't it truly amazing how important friendships are in life?!? I feel absolutely sorry for anyone without good-great fucking ghetto fabulous friends, like mine. It's even more amazing where your friends will take you, if you trust them. They push you to the edge and yank you back just as you are about to fall. Real friends, not the bubble gum, in your life for a moment, kind of friends, but the jawbreaker, last forever kind of friends. The ones who you can call and ask to come over with booze & cigarettes because you are upset. The kind of friends, who can tell by the tone of your voice or a look on your face that something is not right, the same friends who are okay with you saying "I don't want to talk about it anymore" or, "I need a time out". The kind of friends who call you out on your shit and notice when you are in your "head".
The kind of friends who pick you up from the airport with roadie mimosas (and edibles). The kind of friends who loan you their ski polls when your slow ass snowboarding self gets stuck without an ounce of momentum. The kind of friends who get that you are a sucker for a man in converse. The kind of friends who aren't afraid to tell you that you look good, or you look bad, or that you are miserable. The kind of friends who are never fake happy for you and never hesitate to tell you, you deserve better.
The kind of friend that cherishes your friendship so much that when you do argue - you know that even if it takes time, you'll talk about it, work it out move on and still be friends. The drama free kind of friends.
I am thankful to each and every one of my hard as a rock friendships. Those friendships transcend time zone, area code and gender; these lovely ladies and gentlemen inspire me to be better person and make being weird me, so much easier.
But it's 2013 and "friendships" have changed as we have gotten older and now in the age of Facebook, where people have to "accept" your friendship (where stalking, posting, poking and tagging are all acceptable definitions of "friendship"), maybe it's made us look at them even more, I mean shouldn't we?.
I'm the kind of girl that believes in the laws of attraction. I'm the girl in life that likes to keep the good- the good in anything. I'm the girl that stops in the middle of a bustling crosswalk to pick up a penny. I'm the girl that spots a quarter in the foot area of a city cab, and doesn't hesitate to get her hand dirty to grab that twenty-five cents (no chip mani). I'm the girl that will fight you for 14 cents on the ground outside Cocktail. I'm the girl that will walk up to a random stranger and tell them they look nice, because they do, and everyone deserves to hear genuine compliments, key word GENUINE.
I'm the girl that keeps old notes from college friends, even if I am not particularly close with that friend anymore; because when it was good, it was fucking phenomenal (Staci H. Stover, I still have a box of handmade cards and notes XO).
I'm girl that feels that you only get back what you put out in life, in love - into the world. You put out good, you get good. With the right energy life brings us encounters with good people, great people in fact. They are bursts of sunshine into our life that you did not know existed.They see you for the good that resides in you and bring positive to your world. I think all too often, we take advantage of those people in our life. They can be gone in a moments time. Some of them you are not sure you will ever get back and some you never do. I'm the pot calling the kettle black here but, sometimes in life we are too cynical to see the good and too idiotic to see the bad. I will be the first to admit I am great at posing artificial friendships, infinitely not as good at forging real friendships sometimes because, that requires me to open up. I will also admit that over the last three years, that part of me has vastly changed. I think the thing that bothers me most as of late; are people who create a false sense of intimacy in order to gain entry, those are the most sad, lost souls of all, and the most deceitful. I try to see the good in everyone, but sometimes if there is bad, you just have to let it go. I would venture to say that over half of my friends don't have a clue how near and dear they are to me or how much they matter. In their own way, each has been by my side during difficult times and not even known that they made all the difference and that being with them in that moment made me all the better. But the best friends in life won't let you cheat, lie or steal. Cheat yourself, lie to yourself or steal from yourself (or go home with a skank).
Here's to my jawbreakers, you are my rays of sun and signs of love
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